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Melissa Crady died from complications of influenza on March 21, 2019, leaving behind four children and a husband. Photo used with permission. Credit: Kim Frazee / Facebook

By Greg Barnes

To most people, it’s merely a statistic.

Nearly 200 people have died in North Carolina from influenza or its complications so far this flu season — 199 to be precise.

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Melissa was chosen as Miss Fayetteville when she was teen, around the time she was diagnosed with myelodysplastic syndrome. Photo courtesy Kim Frazee/ Facebook. Used with permission.

Each of those 199 people had a life, a family who loved them and a story to be told. Among them were infants, the elderly and everyone in between.

Include Melissa Crady of Fayetteville in the group of 199.

Melissa was born 36 years ago with chronic idiopathic neutropenia, a blood condition that causes a reduced number — or the complete absence — of neutrophils, a type of white blood cell that is responsible for much of the body’s protection against infection.

Put another way, Melissa had almost no immune system.

At 16, she developed myelodysplastic syndrome, a condition in which blood cells die in the bone marrow or just after entering the bloodstream. Melissa wasn’t expected to live past her teens.

“I cannot tell you how many times I was told, ‘This is it – we don’t expect her to make it,’’  Melissa’s mother, Kim Frazee, wrote on her Facebook page. “My little fighter girl, this precious soul who loved and appreciated life more than anyone I know, proved them wrong time and time again.”

Frazee wrote that Facebook message on March 22, the day after her daughter died. Melissa left behind a new husband, four children, a large group of relatives and a mother consumed by grief.

“Maybe if she had gone to the doctor a little bit earlier,” Frazee said, sitting at her kitchen table in Fayetteville wearing a white sundress and surrounded by funeral-home flowers and pictures of her daughter.

Frazee said she and Melissa were inseparable. Melissa used to help operate Frazee’s dance studio. They went to concerts together. They took an annual cruise with many other people. They were best friends.

“Melissa was a light, and she changed lives,” Frazee said. “Her light in my life is gone. It’s only been a month. I can’t comprehend it … She was my everything, and my heart is broken.”


The state’s statistics for last year’s flu season stand out on the page in the form of a bar graph. The number of deaths caused by the flu were higher that season — 391 — than at any time since North Carolina began keeping records.

Bar graph showing flu deaths among different age groups. Most deaths last year in the flu season took place among those 65 and older
The 2017-18 flu season was especially severe, with a record-setting number of deaths. But the distribution of deaths was typical, with most fatalities occurring in people over the age of 65. This bar graph shows the laboratory confirmed influenza-associated deaths reported in last year’s flu season. Final statistics for this year’s flu season will be available after the official end of the typical time for transmission of flu, later this month. Graph courtesy: NC DHHS

It isn’t uncommon to have a high number of flu deaths one year, followed by years with much fewer deaths, said Dr. Tony Moody, an associate professor of Duke University’s Department of Pediatrics, Division of Infectious Diseases, and chief medical officer of the Duke Human Vaccine Institute.

Part of the reason for the fluctuations, Moody said,  is the flu virus is a fickle microscopic fiend that can change from year to year,  strain to strain. As a consequence, scientists can only predict, with reasonable accuracy, the type of flu that is likely to strike the following flu season.

The problem, Moody said, is that the vaccine takes months to develop. The vaccine for next year’s flu season is being processed right now, he said. Scientists make their best estimate of which strains will be circulating in the following year. Some years those guesses are off, some years, the virus subtly mutates by the time flu season arrives, making the vaccine less effective.

The statistics from last year’s flu season show a predictable pattern. People ages 65 and older accounted for the most deaths — more than 280. The elderly and people with compromised immune systems, including cancer patients receiving chemotherapy, are at far greater risk of dying from the flu or complications caused by it, Moody said.

“But truthfully,” he said, “many people who are otherwise healthy can submit to it despite our best efforts.”

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Since her daughter’s death as a result of influenza, Kim Frazee says she’s been looking for meaningful ways to honor Melissa’s memory. She started by collecting food to distribute to her less fortunate neighbors. Photo credit: Greg Barnes

On May 4, best-selling Christian author Rachel Held Evans died at age 37 from complications of the flu. Evans was hospitalized in mid-April in what she described in a tweet as “a flu + UTI combo and a severe allergic reaction to the antibiotics they gave me.” She died after being placed in a medically induced coma and suffered brain seizures, according to published reports.

As the body mounts a war against the virus, Moody said, collateral damage can occur, including a loss of lung function and other complications. Some people develop secondary infections, such as bacterial pneumonia.

He said scientists can predict reasonably well how many people will die during a given flu season, they just cannot predict exactly who will be among them.

People in Melissa’s age group, 25 to 49, have a much better chance of recovering from the flu. According to the bar graph, only 25 or so died in that group during last year’s record-setting flu season in North Carolina.

State health officials say the best way to prevent the flu is to get vaccinated. Yet, of the 148 people who died from the flu or its complications by March 16 of this year, 59 percent had not gotten a flu shot.

“We know that getting vaccinations reduces the chances, but it’s not going to be the same year to year,” Moody said.

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Kim Frazee says that since her daughter Melissa Crady was her best friend. Since Crady died from complications of the flu in March, Frazee says she’s been struggling. Photo courtesy: Kim Frazee/ Facebook. Used with permission.

Melissa was among those who had not gotten a flu shot.

Like her mother, Melissa was not fond of some common vaccines. She thought they could do more harm than good. Her mother said Melissa’s immune system wouldn’t allow her to get a flu shot even if she had wanted one.

It may not have helped, anyway.

Moody said the vaccine can be much less effective on people with compromised immune systems. Mostly, the shots help those people when their friends and neighbors get them, reducing the amount of flu in their social circles. This “herd immunity” makes it less likely they’ll be affected.


The flu swept through Melissa’s family without discrimination. Frazee said Melissa got it twice, recovering the first time only to get another strain shortly afterward. Frazee said she and some of Melissa’s children also got the bug.

“Please pray for my daughter and grandson,” Frazee posted on Facebook the day before Mellisa died. “Melissa has the flu for the 2nd time and Blythe has had strep for months. I’m getting better, but still not well enough to help her… This flu is so contagious, please pray her children don’t get it again. They have been sick since before Christmas and really need a break. Thank you.”

Melissa’s children were everything to her, Frazee said. Her daughter once wore shoes with holes in the soles just so her kids wouldn’t have to go without. In her later stages of life, Melissa was often in such pain that she couldn’t work, her mother said. Her job became her children’s well-being.

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Dr. Tony Moody, an associate professor of Duke University’s Department of Pediatrics, Division of Infectious Diseases, and chief medical officer of the Duke Human Vaccine Institute is part of an international consortium of researchers looking to create a “universal” flu vaccine. Photo courtesy: Duke University

“She made them feel like an individual child,” Frazee said. “She loved them separately and independently and equally.”

Moody said people need to be more cognizant of the people around them, especially those with compromised immune systems, even if they don’t know them. During flu season, he said, people should do everything they have been taught all of their lives: wash your hands, cover your mouth when you cough, get a flu shot and stay home when you’re sick.

“Getting vaccinated isn’t just about you, it’s often about people around you as well,” he said.

Moody said he and other scientists around the country are working to make vaccines more effective and the flu much less common. Among the concepts being studied is a universal vaccine, one that would attack all flu strains with a single shot that could last a lifetime. The universal vaccine is undergoing clinical trials.

Moody said initiatives are expected to be launched next year to establish large vaccine centers to develop and test new vaccines. He said he is part of a collaboration of scientists from Harvard, the University of Texas and elsewhere who for the past 10 years have been working to understand the flu virus and how it responds so a better vaccine can be developed.

“I’m not sure if we are going to solve this problem in a year or 10 years or if it’s going to take longer than that,” Moody said. “But we are all working really hard.”


That work didn’t come soon enough for Melissa Crady, or her mother, who now struggles to continue her daily life. But it could one day benefit millions of others.

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Kim Frazee’s daughter Melissa Crady was a free spirit who liked to dye her hair pink.  But what Frazee really remembers about her daughter is her generosity of spirit. Photo courtesy: Kim Frazee/ Facebook

During last year’s flu season, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that 80,000 people in the United States died from the flu or its complications, the highest death toll in 40 years.

Crady was among those who died this flu season, which ends May 18.

Her mother knows that every parent thinks their child is special, but Melissa “really was,” Frazee said.

By the age of 4, she said, Melissa was helping to feed the homeless, making her mother go to the grocery store whenever she saw a homeless person on the street. During a Heart of Carolina Food Drive, Melissa donated the last thing she had in her pantry, a can of corn, Frazee said.

“She literally gave the last thing she had to eat to someone else, and that’s who she was,” Frazee said. In Melissa’s memory, her family has started a drive to collect peanut butter for the poor.

A free-spirit, Melissa was fond of dying her hair pink, because, Frazee said, “nobody could wear pink hair like her.”

More than 100 people left condolences on Frazee’s Facebook post the day Melissa died.

“My heart hurts so much. She was always there whenever you needed her. She always put others first and she loved her babies,” one friend wrote.

“Kim my heart breaks for you. Melissa was such a kind person,” wrote another.

Frazee is still struggling to get over the aftermath of the flu. She may never fully get over the loss of her daughter, even though she is grateful for the 36 years they had together.

“She was just a gift in every sense of the word,” Frazee said. “She was my everything, and my heart is broken.”graphic box: Flu deaths by the numbers

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Greg Barnes retired in 2018 from The Fayetteville Observer, where he worked as senior reporter, editor, columnist and reporter for more than 30 years. Contact him at: gregbarnes401 at